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Why do my dating app conversations die?

The short answer

Conversations die when they stop being able to go anywhere - usually because both people are asking small questions and neither is offering anything.

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Stop asking, start offering

Every message that is only a question puts the work on them. Two or three of those in a row and it becomes an interview, which nobody continues voluntarily.

Offer something of your own with each question. It gives them a handle and changes the register from screening to talking.

Say the specific thing

'What do you do for fun?' is answerable but generates nothing. 'You mentioned climbing - indoor or actual rock?' invites a real answer and shows you read the profile.

Move it before it cools

Threads have a shelf life of about two to three days. The single most effective habit is proposing something small while the conversation still has energy, rather than after it flattens.

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