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A bio has one job: give a stranger something specific to reply to. Most bios fail because they are a list of adjectives, and nobody can reply to an adjective. Write two to four short lines that show a real detail of your life, say what you are looking for, and leave a hook.
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'Adventurous, laid-back, love to travel and try new food.' Every part of that is true of most people, so it distinguishes nothing and offers no opening.
Replace each claim with the specific thing behind it. Not 'love to travel' but 'I went to Lisbon for four days and spent three of them in the same bakery'. Not 'laid-back' but 'my ideal Sunday is a long breakfast and a crossword I will not finish'.
'Weekday nurse, weekend bread baker. My sourdough starter is older than some of my houseplants. Looking for something real - tell me the best thing you have eaten this year.' That gives a job, a detail, an intent, and an easy question.
'I teach middle school science, which means I can explain volcanoes to anyone. Currently trying to visit every state park within a day's drive. Looking for someone to argue with about which one is best.' The opinion invites a reply, and the plan hands over a ready-made date idea.
Most profiles do not state their intent, which pushes the awkward conversation to message ten instead of message zero. One plain line about what you are looking for filters out the mismatches before they cost anyone time.
It does not need to be heavy. 'Looking for a relationship, happy to start with a good coffee' or 'Here to meet people and see where it goes' both work. What matters is that it is true.
Lists of what you do not want - 'no drama, no games, swipe left if' - read as bitterness and put off the people you would actually like. Bios that are only a quote, only a height, or only a job title give nothing to reply to. Very long bios have the opposite problem, because the hook gets lost somewhere in the third paragraph.
End on something answerable. A mild opinion, an unfinished story, a question that is not a chore. 'Still looking for a taco place that beats the truck outside my office' works because anyone can reply with a recommendation.
The test: could a stranger write you two sentences without having to invent a reason? If not, rewrite it. Then give the new version a week or two before judging it, and look at whether the openers you get mention the bio, not just how many arrive.